By Lori Fullbright, The News On 6
UNDATED -- A Sand Springs man, who was murdered last month, had been a battered spouse for years. When men are the victims of abuse, they rarely admit it, talk about it or get help and Jimmy Weaver's case ended in tragedy.
Jimmy Weaver was a beautiful child, who grew up to have two beautiful children of his own: 8-year-old Jordan and 10-year-old Kaylee.
Jimmy's mother says he was a loving father and skilled carpenter, but developed a drinking problem and married a woman who had one of her own. Records show Deborah Weaver grew violent when she drank and often took it out on her husband and two young daughters.
Jimmy filed several protective orders against her over the years. Once he wrote, "she pushed me off the porch, then hit me in the mouth and pulled my hair."
The couple even divorced once, but kept reuniting.
"He'd always take her back. I don't know if he felt sorry for her or what it was. Don't know if he was getting her back or it was her asking to come back. I don't know what that was all about," said Jimmy Weaver's mother Peggy Etter.
Deborah Weaver was convicted in December of domestic violence on Jimmy and is in jail charged with killing Jimmy on March 26th. He'd been shot in the chest and his face had also been beaten.
"I didn't think she was capable of that. I told her dad that I just didn't know your daughter was capable of murder," said Peggy Etter.
Etter faults her son for his role in the couple's arguing and while she worried something tragic might happen she didn't realize her son was the victim of violent assaults.
"I knew it wasn't just one of them, it was both of them, but I don't think Jimmy would've done to her what she did to him. I really don't," said Peggy Etter.
Domestic Violence Intervention Services says less than 5% of their clients are men, but they offer the same services to men including emergency shelter, free counseling and help with protective orders.
Jimmy's sister now has custody of his daughters and says they are doing well, thanks in large part to the support of their teachers and friends at school.
You can contact DVIS by calling 7-HELP ME, 743-5763.